Pink Gets Real About Her 11-Year (And Sometimes Sexless) Marriage
Can marriage stay alive after a year without sex?
Here’s a reminder to all married couples, courtesy of the singer Pink: “Monogamy is work!”
The 38-year-old rock star, who’s been married to motocross racer Carey Hart since 2006, recently opened up about her personal life and didn’t hesitate to admit that her 11-year marriage has had its share of ups and downs.
“There are moments where I look at [Hart] and he is the most thoughtful, logical, constant…he’s like a rock,” she said in an interview with The Guardian to promote her seventh album “Beautiful Trauma.”
Pink’s Marriage Has Its Ups And Downs
“He’s a good man. He’s a good dad. He’s just the kind of dad I thought he’d be and then some. And then I’ll look at him and go: I’ve never liked you. There’s nothing I like about you,” she confessed. “We have nothing in common. I don’t like any of the shit you like. I don’t ever wanna see you again. Then two weeks later I’m like, things are going so good, you guys.”
— P!nk (@Pink) October 12, 2017
She and Hart, who have a 6-year-old daughter and an almost 1-year-old son together, went through a year-long drought in their sex life at one point. And the lack of passion caused Pink to question the state of their relationship.
“[You’ll] go through times when you haven’t had sex in a year. Is this bed death? Is this the end of it? Do I want him? Does he want me?” she mused.
“We’ve Grown Up Together”
This isn’t the first time Pink has been candid about her relationship struggles, either. After she and Hart separated for a year in 2008, she came to the realization that “long-term relationships are an everyday choice.” She told Glamour that she doesn’t believe relationships can exist without conflict.
So the next time your spouse does something to annoy you, just remember these words of wisdom from the singer:
“It’s harder to be in a marriage than it is to bounce from one relationship to the next. We’re good because we communicate and we’ve grown up together, not because we don’t fight.”
And Don’t Forget Pink’s Inspiring Grammy Awards Speech
Pink is really knocking it out of the park this year on the inspiration front. Reading that a celebrity’s marriage requires just as much effort as your own is surely reaffirming to couples everywhere working hard on their own unions.
And let’s not forget about her inspiring speech at the MTV Video Music Awards.
In it, Pink had an empowering message for her daughter, and it’s the kind of message that should be required reading for all kids.
At the awards show, Pink was recognized with the Michael Jackson Video Vanguard Award for her influence on the music scene over the years. Before accepting the award, she took to the stage to perform a medley of her greatest hits, during which she drove past her suited-up 6-year-old daughter, Willow Sage Hart, and gave her a high-five.
As she accepted the Vanguard Award—which was presented to her by Ellen DeGeneres, no less—Pink told the audience a touching tale about teaching her daughter to love herself.
“I know I don’t have a lot of time, but if I may tell you a quick story…” she started.
She then recounted a day when, as she drove her daughter to school, Willow said, “I’m the ugliest girl I know. … I look like a boy with long hair.”
That’s a heartbreaking thing for any mother to hear, and Pink’s first thought—of course—was to defend her daughter. “My brain went to, ‘Oh my god, you’re six, where is this coming from? Who said this? Can I kick a 6-year-old’s a—?'” she said, before continuing:
“But I didn’t say anything, and instead I went home and I made a PowerPoint presentation for her, and in that presentation, there were androgynous rock stars and artists that live their truth, are probably made fun of every day of their life, and carry on, and wave their flag and inspire the rest of us. These are artists like Michael Jackson, and David Bowie, and Freddie Mercury, and Annie Lennox and Prince and Janis Joplin and George Michael, Elton John, so many artists.”
Pink then told her daughter that she, too, had been called a boy many times in her life.
She explained: “When people make fun of me, that’s what they use—they say I look like a boy or that I’m too masculine or I have too many opinions or my body is too strong and I said to [Willow], ‘Do you see me growing my hair?’ She said, ‘No, Mama.’ Do you see me changing my body? ‘No, Mama.’ Do you see me changing the way I present myself to the world? ‘No, Mama.’ Do you see me selling out arenas all over the world? ‘Yes, Mama.'”
“So, baby girl,” she said. “We don’t change. We take the gravel and the shell and we make a pearl.” Pink wrapped up her speech by thanking some of the artists lighting the way on this front.
Please keep sharing your wisdom with us, Pink!
This story originally appeared on Simplemost.